Feelings, You Are Not the Boss of Me!

Ever have one of those days when your feelings are trying to get the best of you?

When my boys were little, sometimes they would argue.  Two of the biggest insults were, “Baby Face” and “You are Not the Boss of Me!”  It made my husband and me giggle every time we heard it.

We have choices.  We can give up on what we’re doing and give into feelings of defeat or we can use the feelings of defeat to fuel our motivation to keep going.  In doing the latter, we are making a statement, “Feelings, You Are Not the Boss of Me!”

Feelings, you don’t determine who I forgive.  I choose to forgive because forgiveness is an action and not a feeling.

Feelings, you don’t count when I feel like sitting down after looking at a scale that won’t budge.  I choose to keep going because I am a winner.  I am not a quitter.

The  Bible tells us that Jesus was hungry when Satan tempted him.  The devil’s first two questions began with, “If you are the Son of God.”

Jesus didn’t respond to him with feelings that may have been attached to his hunger. The truth is that before going into the wilderness, the Bible tells us that the Spirit descended upon Jesus and a voice from heaven said, “This is my beloved Son in whom I am well pleased.” (Matthew 3:17)

It’s like the words of Jesus’ father were what kept Jesus focused. Truth weighs more than feelings.

He knew he was the Son of God and God, the Father knew exactly what to tell him before he was tempted.

I’m not saying that feelings should be ignored.  Thank God for feelings.  I wouldn’t trade the feelings I felt when I gave birth to my children.

But I am saying this. I believe what we know about ourselves will determine how we respond to the temptation of negative feelings. Sometimes feelings need to be told what the plan is and that’s when we take the lead.

I remember one day many years ago when I believed the lie that I had blasphemed against the Holy Spirit. Feelings of doom were attached to that lie. I felt hopeless.

While feeling hopeless and freaked out over that lie, my phone rang. It was my brother who was in high school. He called me from a pay phone.  There were no cell phones at the time.  He had just surrendered his life to the Lord and was on cloud 9.  I said, “Hello.”  He said, “Jenny?”  I said, “Yes.”  He went on to say, “I was in Math class feeling bored.  And I asked the Lord who to pray for.  And He said, ‘Pray for your sister because she’s being tormented and tell her that I have her name written in the palm of my hand.'”

The truth that came through that phone call was exactly what I needed to hear. I was distracted because I believed a lie. I had allowed my feelings to keep me down based on that lie. The truth is that nothing can separate us from the love of God.  Daddy God had reached out to me with a word of truth to comfort me.

John 10:28: I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; no one will snatch them out of my hand.

2 Corinthians 1:22: and he has identified us as his own by placing the Holy Spirit in our hearts as the first installment that guarantees everything he has promised us.

Feelings are nothing but feelings.  How we respond to them will tell us who is in charge. Our feelings or us.

Hebrews 4:14-16 New International Version (NIV) 14 Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has ascended into heaven,[a] Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to the faith we profess. 15 For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet he did not sin. 16 Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.



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