She had just moved to our department. And every time she answered the phone she would identify herself as the former secretary of President Nolan. At first I thought that’s just her way of refreshing someone’s memory. But the more I heard it, I realized something. I realized that she had built her identity on the foundation of having worked for someone very important.
I understood what it was like to have worked for someone like that. And I also understood what it was like after that person retired. I’ve seen people treat me with the utmost respect because of who I worked for. And I’ve also seen people treat me completely differently once that changed.
People are funny like that. I think it stems from insecurity. Fear of rejection. I think those who work hard at staying connected never feel connected to anything or anyone including themselves. And that to me is a lonely world.